Old-Fashioned Values

Recently I have been thinking about infidelity. A friend knew her husband had become close with another women. This women was married as well. When my friend spoke to the husband of the women she expressed her concern that their spouses friendship was leading to infidelity, he laughed. She took this to mean that infidelity is just part of life and to be expected in a marriage. This is not where old-fashioned family values fall. My friend loves her husband, but doesn’t care to share him in this way. So who is right, my friend with her idea of being faithful to your husband or wife or this womens husband’s idea that infidelity is part of the game?

My friends marriage in not healthy.  As a result she needing lots of help in life and is not able to give back to society.  On the other hand I am surrounded by married couples in a committed relationship. Their excess energy goes back into strengthening society rather then fixing their marriage.

Elaine Dalton recently asked

“Could it be that we have been slowly desensitized into thinking that high moral standard are old-fashioned and not relevant or important in today’s society?”

I hearty would say YES to Dalton’s question. It is not fashionable or popular to stand up and be perceived as a prude, but it is important to do.

There are good people in same sax relationships that are faithful to each other….but I am not trying to say there are not. My point is that 50 years ago no one would have a debate about wither it was ok for a married couple to be in an open relationship. Those old-fashioned family values were seen as good. They still are good. Having marriage defined as between a husband and a wife still is a good thing. Not wanting to broaden that definition is one way people are trying to protect a higher moral standard. Even if much of society has become “desensitized into thinking that high moral standards are old-fashioned and not relevant.”



  1. Pearl said

    Thanks for this! We should always be working to foster those so-called “old-fashioned moral standards.” Once the moral fiber of our country decays into tatters, society will lose all inhibitions and chaos and debauchery will rule the day.

  2. Great post. Thanks! I can’t believe how many people are content to just accept the things in society that aren’t ok, like infidelity, and then sadly for them, at some point it all seems normal. I agree that it is important to stand up and be perceived as a prude! I envy the people of centuries past where morality played a huge part in their society. We have seen and are currently seeing the ill effects of a moral-less society.

  3. busywithconviction said

    Society really has made great progress over the years. I am thankful for many of the changes. I am glad that women have an equal role in marriages and society. I really like to wear pants and have that be a social norm. Lots of good things have changed. But with the good changes have also come the bad. The lose of a moral code for society is one of those. A society that throws everything away rather then using it up and making it do. And there are others. “Progress” has a double edged sword.

  4. Heather said

    Thank you for your post. We do need to go back to traditional values, but I agree that I do like how women have a greater role in society. I, too, like to “wear the pants”… maybe that’s why I’m not married yet? ha ha.

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